Gnanaprakasamma was born in 1970 to Mrs.Charamma and Mr. Abraham, a farmer and business man in a village in Andhra Pradesh, India. She has two brothers and one sister. She was married in the 1986 at a tender age of 16 years to Mr. Ratna Raju a Railway employee (Class IV). After marriage she stayed in the joint family and had to work hard, serving all her in–laws and family members.
She realized that her husband was an alcoholic and a gambler even before marriage. He never used to spend money for his family. After the birth of two female children she and her husband separated from the joint family and started living independently. Her husband was transferred to another place and she along with her children was kept at Guntur by her husband. She did not receive any communication or money from him for the next three months and her brother and other family members looked after them during those torrid times.
Mariamma a 31 year old lady is the daughter of a farmer from a small village in Andhra Pradesh, India. She has three sisters and one brother. She and her brother were fortunate to have higher education while the other children studied up to the 7th class only. All the children are married.
She completed her graduation and got married to an Indian Railway employee who had studied till the 10th class. After one year of marriage she became pregnant and during ante natal check up she was tested for HIV and was found to be positive. Her husbands test also revealed that he was also HIV positive and her world was shattered. She and her husband went through intense family quarrels and she confronted her husband about his past sexual behaviour and after a lot of argument.
Success Story of Mr. Shivaji Barge
Mr. Shivaji Barge
Mr. Shivaji Barge
I am sharing my story because I see, hear and read so much misinformation about HIV infection and transmission. All the while, I realise that I am alive today because of the anti–viral medications and the support of the network, my family, and ART. These were not always available to the many people I lost in the past, who were sacrificed by the ignorance of HIV and the lack of someone to give them inspiration. I learned very well from this and I have a better life today. I read about a young man, Leon, who went to visit some prisoners and told them of his fight with HIV. One said to him: “Anyone who’s ever been a success at anything will attest to the importance of mind–set, I commend you.” In this sentence I find inspiration to live with HIV honourably.
Success Story of Dr. Devdatta Gore
Dr. Devdatta Gore worked as a surgeon in the small coastal town of Ratnagiri in western India until he got HIV in 1994. The diagnosis shattered his health. His weight dropped from 68 kg to 38 kg. His CD4 count fell to 38, he got opportunistic infections ranging from herpes to cerebral atrophy, and in 1996, his doctor gave him only two months to live.
In 1998, four years after he was diagnosed as positive, Devdatta embarked on a treatment regimen based on a mix of healing traditions: ARVs, yoga, nutrition, breathing exercises, and spiritual healing. It is unusual for a doctor trained in allopathy to turn to other healing traditions, but Devdatta believes that his recovery truly began only once he had found mental peace – the acceptance to be at peace with himself and the world. Since that day, he has been on a sustained path to recovery.
Success stories: marriages through positivesaathi.
All the stories submitted below are the ones that came to my knowledge through the feedbacks of the married persons. There may be many more persons who have used the platform of positivesaathi and found the partners but haven’t thought it necessary to inform us about their matchmaking efforts and happy results. It’s ok. (Note: we haven’t given the names and other details of the persons precisely to maintain the confidentiality of the concerned persons.)
First success was intercontinental...!!!
Unmarried boy of 28 from Singapore called me last summer on my cell phone. I was surprised to receive that international call. Within a couple of seconds I recognized that he is the person who was in touch with me through e-mail and chatting since last 1 month. He was basically from Hyderabad and was working in a MNC at Singapore as a software engineer. His status was not known to his family at Hyderabad. Since his younger brother and sister were to be married, his parents were very eager for his marriage. He registered on positivesaathi from Singapore to find a positive girl.
A girl of 28 basically from Andhra Pradesh got married with an Indian boy residing at London. Within a couple of years she got pregnant and was diagnosed HIV +ve. She realised that her husband was already HIV +ve and has transferred the virus to her. She got divorced to live alone with her girl child. She registered on positivesaathi from London to find a positive partner.
As both were basically from AP and having same mother tongue, they send interest to each other through positivesaathi. They mailed, talked with each other and finally decided to tie the knot.
The boy called me to say thanks. He said he have applied for visa to UK and is going to UK to marry her and to take her to Singapore. He also told me that after marriage he may not be in touch with me later.
Second success story: Canada resident Indian got married with Mumbai lady.
It was my first ever occasion to meet a group of HIV +ve persons after the launching of the website. I used to be in touch with all of them through phone, mail or chat. Due to some official work I was at Mumbai and just gave a friendly call to some of the registered persons there. One of my registered friends requested me to arrange meeting with one registered lady from Mumbai. I kindly requested her to attend the meeting. I called other three persons also to join the small get together. The man of 34 was having a girl child and was divorced. The lady was also widowed. Sadly, she was also cheated by her husband and got the painful gift of the virus from him. In spite of knowing that the man has married her knowing his +ve status before marriage and brought life-time pains to her, she stayed with him till his last breath. After coming out of the shock, as per the suggestions of her doctor to get remarried, she registered on positivesaathi. She also joined our get together of 5 persons in Mumbai. The man was interested in her but she was having earlier communication with another man from Canada. He was basically from India from a neighboring state of Maharashtra. She told me that she has already fixed her future with that person. Two months later I got the warm invitation from the couple to attend their marriage. Since it was almost 1000 km from my place, I was unable to attend their marriage. It was the happiest day of the year for me. The words I received from the couple were more than any award on this earth. I felt like my kids have got married. They use to call me frequently. God bless them.
Success in Andhra Pradesh.
Just like the regular routine, we were replying the mails of the registered persons. While registering, many persons give their address, mail id and phone no. To maintain the confidentiality, we never display these personal details on the site. But if someone gets no reply from the websites send-receive interest feature, he/she calls us or sends us mail requesting these persons communication details of that specific profile. We just replied one mail from Andhra Pradesh giving some details of ladies from there. When we received his reply mail, we were surprised to discover another success story. The man told us that he contacted one lady and found that she has already found life partner through positivesaathi and married couple of months before. Positivesaathi has no doubt created a platform for match making. It is successful to bring the +ve persons on this platform. We are trying to build the confidence among our positive brothers/ sisters. Still most of the persons try to hide their status with identity and that might be the reason that we are not getting the proper feedback of all the developments in match making through the site. Still we were happy to know that we were successful to bring the joy and happiness in the life of them. May god bring all the joys in their life.
Success at Mumbai-Pune.
The lady of 34 from Pune was not familiar with computer and internet as she was from a lower middle class family and was not that educated. Her uncle was insisting her to get re-married after divorce but she was not ready to think in that direction. Her doctor told her one day that there is a website for matchmaking of +ve persons and she should take help of that website. Her doctor gave her my cell no and asked to contact me. We uploaded her profile immediately. Another person from Mumbai was in personal contact with me on phone like the other 250 registered persons. One day he asked me about her contact details. Taking her permission, I gave him her cell no. Few weeks later we learnt that they have tied their knot with each other and they are marring soon. It’s so nice feeling to see the joys and hopes on the face of persons who otherwise unnecessarily think that their life is a total failure.
Success in Mumbai: lady from NGO found her partner.
It was the time when I was trying to communicate with various NGO’s working for +ve persons. I searched for the NGO’s on net and was informing them about this platform for matchmaking. I called one NGO from Pune and talked with the lady working there. Within no time she told me that she is also interested in marriage. I registered many of their members on positivesaathi along with her profile. After 2 months she told me that she has been transferred to other NGO at Mumbai. In a few days later she told me that she is in communication with one person from Mumbai. I attended one get together of +ve persons for marriage at Mumbai and met her first time on that occasion. I was amazed with the confidence she was having. Indeed she was an ideal for all the +ve females in India. In such a society where males also seem to be lost their confidence and the charm of their living, I was really surprised looking at the stability of her mind. She might have been realised that HIV is just a disease like blood pressure and diabetes and with proper medication and precautions she can live like an ordinary person for a longer time. She was having a correct vision of human body and health. May god bring this vision to all the +ve persons on this earth, specifically in India. A month later we were happy again to know that they have tied their knot with each other. God bless them.
Success in realizing the truth of existence and humanity: A case of Sikh-Hindu, inter-religion marriage.
A couple of months earlier I got a call from Amritsar (Punjab). Manjeetsing was on phone. He was a senior employee in defense. At the age of 42 he was feeling alone and was searching for a positive life partner to share his feelings and spent the remaining life with a dedicated loving life partner. He was interested in one Hindu lady of 37 from Solapur. He was asking about more details about her. I told him that I haven’t met her and can’t describe about her physic and looks since I have uploaded her profile based on the phone communication only. I called her to update these developments. She asked me to be a mediator for this inter-religion relation. I was really confused to handle this uncommon situation. Both of them were insisting that unless I am present as a mediator, they are not going to take any decision. Later the meeting was decided at Pune last month (feb-2009). I was seeking the help of some knowledgeable and matured person in this field. I requested Prof. Bagul from Life-Care-Centre, Pune. As I am the district in-charge of RTO at Ratnagiri, and having some urgent meetings here, I was unable to go to Pune. The couple met with each other at 9 AM at Pune for the first time. She came with her uncle and he came with her sister. After spending a couple of hours together, they went to Prof Bagul. After a brief counseling, they decided to get marry. Prof Bagul helped them by every kind. In the afternoon they were married!!!
Many a times I see that persons show interest in each other. They meet each other again and again. On such a painful situation of life when the life span seems to be measurable, they insist on cast, looks, wealth and religion and always hesitate to take a decision. The reliability and basic nature of the person is many times overlooked. I salute to this couple as they went beyond man-made restrictions and as they have realised the real truth of existence. We need love and caring to spend our lives happily at least in this crucial stage. I came to tears when this man who is 3 years elder to me said that “sir, you are god for us.” How can I tell him that I am doing a simple job of a telephone operator or tourist-guide and getting the salary of Director-General of department of telecommunication or tourism? Sometimes I feel like I am getting more returns with my small service to humanity. God bless them.
IT boy gets his cute life partner through site.
1st March 2009. Almost 100 +ve persons were gathered at Pimpri-Chinchwad, Pune to find the +ve life partner. Life care centre and positivesaathi.com jointly organized that event. All members of Life care centre were informed. Almost 800 registered members of positivesaathi were informed about this get together opportunity. Almost 150 Maharashtra members were communicated through SMS by the editor of positivesaathi. Through this collective effort, almost 100 +ve persons attended the function. In the introduction section, suddenly one handsome boy of 28 years old came on the stage and introduced himself as a software engineer from Mumbai. He thanked positivesaathi for the new pleasant turn of his life. It was great news for me. He told us that he have found a girl of 25 yrs old from Pune only. In the next month the date of engagement was to be fixed. After the function I met him again and was happy to meet his cute life partner who specially came to meet me. Indeed it was a nice couple. With a very small efforts of mine I again saw two lives getting a new ray of hope and another dimension of life.